30 Questions At 30
Turning 30 is a milestone that I have excitedly awaited for and is a doorway into the heart of self-discovery, a moment to savor life’s richness and reflect on its lessons. To celebrate I have created this piece, woven with threads of introspection, gathered wisdom is a tribute to the milestones I’ve passed, the near death experiences I’ve escaped, and the dreams still unfolding before me. I hope these questions spark curiosity within you as they did me… enjoy🥂✨
How did you get into all this? What do you think of it?
I grew up chasing a dream of breaking the chains of generational poverty, never quite knowing what it meant to feel financially safe and a consistent dwelling. Through deliberate steps and in-depth research, I chose this path. Sharing with my mum and my best friends having their support. With every experience, I’ve unearthed vibrant layers of creativity, authenticity, sensuality, and curiosity in surprising and profound ways. Now that I am here, immersed in this sensuous way of life, it feels like a masterpiece in progress—one I could never trade for the mundane.
What is your idea of happiness?
Happiness are those magical moments of being both consciously liberated yet subconsciously secure. It’s the freedom to be wholly yourself while being drawn gently into the mystery of who you might yet become. It’s found in the rhythm of a dance, intoxicated giggles with a trusted friend, the sweep of a paintbrush, and the tender embrace of lover, or the climax of release in erotic ecstasy.
How would your friends describe your personality?
Bubbly is the word I’ve come to hear most often. Like a strawberry in bubbly glass of Champagne yet deep like a flavorful Pinot — sensually sweet, sensational, meticulous, artistic, luscious effervescence with a hint of mystery. Classic yet delicate like a intricately designed glass flute you would drink Champagne from. Friends have told me that I am spiritual, sensual, vivacious, and articulate but I’m also introspective, tender-hearted, and deeply intuitive; a delicate balance of playfulness, prophetic, and poise.
What do you think gets better with age?
The richness of sex and intimacy, the depth of wine, and the profound beauty of art.
Is it true you are an astrologer-tarot card reader? Can you read mine? What’s your favorite planet? Favorite Tarot card?
Yes, it would be my pleasure to enlighten you with spiritual wisdom found right in your own birth chart and my cards. Tarot and Astrology are my companions, and I have recently become certified as a professional Hellenistic astrology. I deeply resonate with The High Priestess #2 and Empress #3 - Inner knowing and quiet power; the High Priestess is our intuition, our deepest inner guide sharing with us what we know to be true from our spine trusting a higher power that is reflected back in ourselves and The Empress being the embodiment of love and Venusian pleasures full circle; procreation, nurturing, creative, abundant, and femininely powerful. With astrology, I'm naturally drawn to Venus representing all these beautiful, pleasure-seeking, and slow abundant living with an affinity to an astrology point called the Lot of Fortuna, an astrology mathematical point alluding to our fated luck because we all can use a little luck from time to time.
What is your favorite color and flower?
I adore roses, for they embody beauty found in romance and resilience. My favorite colors echo the Pacific Ocean sunsets fading into starry skies, a palette of passionately tangible meets the profound celestial.
What is the color of your personality?
According to ChatGPT; “A dusky rose gold sunset melting into deep sapphire seas and celestial skies.”
Your favorite scent?
A bouquet of fresh-cut flowers arriving to my door from an affectionate admirer, the whisper of rain on forest leaves, a Champagne kiss left lingering on your lips, the delicate trace of lavender on a summer breeze, or the intimate memory of perfume lingering on lingerie, the morning-after cup of chai tea arousing us to get out of bed. These scents are the poetry of the air.
A flower that describes you?
A mixed bouquet of peonies, honeysuckle, and wisteria, each reflecting facets of my spirit. Peonies symbolize romance, prosperity, and the beauty of living authentically. Honeysuckle embodies love, devotion, and spiritual growth, while wisteria represents enchantment, divine love, and the unfolding mysteries of life.
Your favorite season?
Romantic Autumn, where summer flings transform into enduring love, the holding of hands in the crisp air beckons for warm affections of intimacy, sweet potato pie, butterfly kisses, & cuddles.
Where would you most like to live in the world?
Torn between the lush stillness of the British countryside and the electric hum of Tokyo’s streets, I dream of a life that dances between serenity and vibrancy.
Your favorite way to indulge?
Having a spa masseuse's tender loving hands firmly massage the negativity and tightness from my body and soul. Shopping for an ensemble that whispers luxury for our date. Traveling to serene places where cultures bloom like exotic flowers. Getting lost in my astrology books armed with a chai tea in hand, sewing a new garment or painting to my heart's content that my emotions fall short to express.
What do you think is worth waiting for?
Genuine love.
Your main vice?
The desire to spoil and be spoiled. Gift-giving is my language, a tangible expression of care and connection. My second vice? A hedonistic hunger for love and intimacy—pure, consuming, and divine.
What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
To forsake the authentic beauty of the unknown for the sterile allure of the absolute.
What do you dread?
Emotional immaturity, passive-aggressive behavior, narcissism, and the ache of unresolved conflict, creative stagnation, and the sense of feeling unsafe.
If you could have an extra hour in the day, how would you spend it?
Mastering a new language each year, deep diving on my ancestral history, or finding stillness in yoga.
What do you think is one of the world’s greatest mysteries?
The IRS—The Internal Revenue Service of the USA. Who has, where does it go, and how is my tax money really being used? Do any of us actually know? 🤔
What are three things you can’t live without?
Love, delicious food, and kindness.
Your favorite way to spend your time?
Immersed in love’s embrace or allowing my creativity to express itself unabashedly in all artistic forms; painting, dancing, sewing, singing, and the like.
What do you try to keep an open mind about?
Sexuality, low-level human fallibility, and the endless potential for growth.
Do you live by any special philosophy?
“If you can’t do anything to help those around you, do all that you can to not hurt them.” — My father
What is your current state of mind?
I’m alight with curious excitement, romance, intention, and determination for the journey ahead with a resolve to live as peacefully and beautifully as possible.
What specific work of art do you admire most?
Intimacy by Thomas Blackshear II. Its blend of oil and gold leaf is a masterpiece of storytelling of the divine sensual feminine an African-American woman
Close seconds? “Satyr satisfies Nymph" by Arthur Fischer, 1900 —”The Kiss (Italian: Il bacio)” by Francesco Hayez, 1859 —“La Femme Damnée” (1859) by Octave Tassaert (France, 1800-1874)
Your favorite quote(s)?
“When we know better, we do better.” — Maya Angelou
“If they wanted to they would.” — Unknown
“If we deem something to be hard, it will be hard. If we think something will be easy, it will be.” — Affinia
“Try to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud.” — Maya Angelou
If you could ask one person, alive or dead, only one question, what would you ask?
I’d ask one of my ancestors who survived it all, “What really happened?”
What excites you about the future?
The prospect of surpassing today’s goals to embrace even grander dreams.
Do you believe in a “higher power”?
I believe that there is an unknown force that goes by many names that exists. I believe in the magnetic energy of the universe, luck, and unexplainable magic that's all around us—the law of attraction that mirrors what we emanate and the law of assumption that it will come.
What do you want to do when you retire?
Offer my life experience and spiritual wisdom to others as a full-time astrologer, seamstress & costume designer, and be a mother someday.
What is your most treasured possession?
My time. My time left on this earth. Fleeting, irrevocable, and invaluable—it shapes our lives, our loves, and our legacies. Therefore it is important on what we do with it, how and who we share it with, and appreciate it while we are here.
As I step into this new decade, I cherish the past while embracing endless possibilities. Thank you for celebrating this milestone with me, where every question unveils another layer of discovery. What are your answers to some of these questions? Let’s connect! Wishing you a magical, mystical, and successful day!
Kiss Me 💋,
Affinia
Follow me on my socials for more reflections and updates on my journey!
